Some Questions Will Never Be Answered

Why is it so hard to let go?

Why do you still love someone who never cared about you?

Why do we have to hurt this way?

How did we get to this place?

Why can’t we forget about the past and just start over?

Why is it such a struggle just trying to be friends?

Why can’t we just allow ourselves to be loved?

Why did all of this happen to us?

Why can’t you stop talking and simply hold me and hug me until all my hurt goes away?

Why can’t we stop looking back?

How do we pick up all of these pieces and fix this?

Why did we have to hurt each other?

Why did we both have to be so stubborn?

Maybe I never loved you and maybe you never loved her.

Maybe we just needed to meet each other to help each other get through a difficult point in our lives.

Maybe none of it even matters.

Maybe nothing matters at all.

Why can’t we try….. just one more time?

Where do we go from here?

Why, after all we have been through- after all the hurt, the lies, and the pain- am I still willing to give this another try?

Why do I still care?

Why was it so easy for you to give up and walk away?

Why do I still see something in you that no one else can see?

Isn’t that worth something to you?

Why do I still have so much hope?

Maybe that is the biggest question of all.

Why is real, true, genuine, unconditional love, so elusive?

Why is real, true, genuine, unconditional love, so elusive?



Two People

Two people

Complete opposites.

Two people

Man and woman

Or boy and girl?

So childlike in some ways that perhaps they needed each other

As most children do.

Two people


Blindly finding their way.

Two people

Who met

Who fell in love

Who destroyed that love

Each by their own destructive ways.

Two people

So different that perhaps they belonged together

Or who were so wrong for each other

They were bound to crash and burn.

Two people

Damaged, stubborn, fragile, lost, distrusting, isolated, independent, fearful, strong-willed, heartbroken, misunderstood


Two people

Who once loved and laughed and held hands

Made love

Made plans

Who were fiercely passionate and in love

Are now alone.

Two people

Will never be the same.

Just another sweet and touching picture I love.I adore animals... cats, dogs and pretty much all animals.


Can Men and Women Ever be “JUST” Friends?

When Harry Met Sally:

Harry: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I’m saying is – and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form – is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don’t.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don’t.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I’m saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So, you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No. You pretty much want to nail ’em too.
Sally: What if THEY don’t want to have sex with YOU?
Harry: Doesn’t matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then.
Harry: I guess not.
Sally: That’s too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

I know many will disagree, but ask yourself this:

If you were drunk, would you sleep with your ‘friend’? Under any circumstances, would you ever have sex with your friend?

You know the answer is yes. You would have sex. And that makes a true friendship between men and women impossible.

Harry is 100% right. Men and women can never be JUST friends.

Before you start leaving 47 comments about how you disagree, consider this:

My last boyfriend of two years had a female ‘friend.’ Turns out he was fucking her for the entire time he was dating his previous girlfriend. Then he started dating me. At that time, I had no idea he was fucking his “friend.”

He tried convincing me over and over again that they were “just friends.” Then he went on an overnight trip with her. While we were dating.

A month later, he went on a longer trip with her. They stayed in the same hotel room. For five nights.

At the time, I loved him and I trusted him.

I wanted to believe him so badly that “nothing” happened between them.

But it turns out they were not ‘just friends’ and they never were.

We broke up 6 months ago and he immediately started seeing her and having sex with her again.

Last night was New Years Eve. I invited him over to have a nice dinner with my girls and I, in an attempt to make amends.

My daughters were so heartbroken when he moved out, I thought I owed it to them to try one more time.

Love means trying. Not giving up on someone, even when they’ve hurt you.

Love means second and sometimes even third chances.

So I invited him for NYE to mend a fractured relationship because a part of me still cares for him.

But he turned me down.

He chose to take his ‘friend’ on an overnight trip so they could ring in the New Year.


They have been ‘friends’ who have been sleeping together for 3 years.

Three years. Including last night. New Years Eve. The biggest night of the year.

Now try convincing me they are ‘just friends’.

Happy New Year.–attraction-gets-way.html

From When Harry Met Sally. A very difficult movie to watch when you are going through heartbreak.

From When Harry Met Sally. A very difficult movie to watch when you are going through heartbreak.